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Finally, I’ve been officially introduced to Kian’s parent. Erm..let’s see, this is like after almost six years we date!? 

Hey folks, say HI to his old folks–daddy and mama Lee !  

Both our parents are abit traditionally conservative in some way. I first, told my old folks Kian is gay, so it would be OK for us to live together. But after awhile, my parents somehow just knew what is going on. [Parents are not stupid or blind, most of the time they just don’t want to say it out loud.] They are very open minded about our relationship. Indeed, my whole family members are happy for us.

On the other hand, his highly educated old folks think that, he should only get a girlfriend after he is completely done with uni. *typical Asian parents* So ‘naturally‘, Kian didn’t tell his parents about us. [Anyway, his mum is not dumb, you see. Mama Lee told me she kinda sense ‘it’ long time ago.]

I’ve been very very nervous all the time.. I wasn’t sure what’s going to happen when I meet his parents. Wheather they like me or not? If they going to approve our relationship…bla bla bla. Heck!!! My boyfriend should consider these!! Not me, right? nahbeh!

I even designed my answer for it if his mum say NO to our relationship. I was going to say this: “Hey aunty, if you don’t like me going out with your son, er..er.. too bad. I already sleep your son!” Thank Buddha, there is no need for me to use this conversation at all. phew~

The worst part is, they were coming to Perth (and stay over our place) few days before I got back to Perth!! *nervous to the core* With all the hee-hee haa-haa, ups and downs going on in me, things were (and are) going well. Ah! Way better than I thought, indeed

The first night when we met, his mum expressed her annoyance that Kian wasn’t telling her about the relationship. I stressed out abit, and nearly break down. [Fact, Kian admited to her few years back; she probably just slip that off her mind.] Anyway, my point is : NEVER ARGUE WITH THEM! Note: Ya betta keep this in ya mind too.

I worked my way out from there. I told mama Lee, I love to inform her our relationship myself, but Kian just didn’t allow me to do so!!! Kian wants to tell them only when he get graduated [See, you need to move one step backward to re-strcuture your strategies]

I did make her to understand his son inherits both his parents nature–superb quite. Mama Lee did admit that their family members don’t talk much, except his elder brother who talks slightly abit more.

Thank Buddha again, his mum has been really understanding. She is fine with everything. [oh well, if she doesn’t, she can’t do much, can she? *ngek* I already X!$%*& his son. Hahah.] She even told me: I want you two to look after yourself, and stay like ‘this’ forever. Teehehehehe…this is a approval from her, innit? I nearly wanted to cry, seriouly. It has been six years! And finally! Yay~!

Note: Most of the photos taken by Kian using my camera.

Including THIS ONE! (nice arse, eh? ) 

I’ve been myself. I don’t act like a different person. That’s just not me. I did swear as well. Ops. No F words thou. I used the word ‘bitch’, ‘bloody’, ’sh*t’ etc infront his parents. Yeah, my new year resolution for not using the F word is a complete failure anyway. *sigh* Luckily I am a Chinese; Chinese have Chinese New Year, so I guess I can start my Chinese-New-Year Resolution all over again, eh?

I personally think daddy Lee is abit (way) too quite. He hardly talk much. He is that typical Chinese family man who doesn’t talk much, yet does all the house works–in and out.  

 

Kian’s mum did mention that she wants us to look after ourselves..don’t do anything “wrong”. Oh well, you know what I mean. Don’t get pregnant lar~! As if I can make her son pregnant like that, eh? Haha! 

I said this to mama Lee: Look! I am not even thinking of having a family or whatsoever. Not till I have my own house, and I am finacially stable. I won’t be let my kids live in a rental property, having them moving around with the adults. I want the best for them. Just like what my parents’ve been giving me– best education, good food, safe shelter and the best(est) love on earth.

The point is, I still never thought that I want to have any children in my life ’cause I don’t want to grow up. I want Kian for all myself!  

Dinner at Ciao Italia, South Perth.

I enjoy having Kian’s parents staying with us for short term. I get to know them , they get to know me. Plus, I get to heard ALOT of funny things about Kian. Chinese has this famous saying:  家有一老﹐ 如有一寶 (jia you yi lao, ru you yi bao) means, having ONE elderly at home, meaning having a “precious thing” at home. Hehe.. I have TWO!!!

I am very different from Debra Barone from “Everybody Loves Raymond“, she strongly dislikes her mother in-law, Marie. She got annoyed when Marie cooks, when Marie critics… bla bla bla. She is just not quite happy.

I learn ‘my’ lesson from the TV series, I take up all things. I keep remind myself to open up my mind, and learn from everyone–both younger and older. In fact, I appreciate people giving me advices, because this show that they care for us, they want us to be better down the road. Right?  

The whole meeting the parents thing..were once driving me insane, and nervous. But yeah, it is ALL ok now.

I am really glad having them over for few days. The houseworks, fixing my car *ahem* and all the bits and pieces about Kian is only one thing when they all come together. At least at this point, I already, officially meet the whole family!

 

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